You, m'dear, were one of the "precious few" that I was referring to! Thank you very much for daring to speak up! *big hugs*
As you say, I do remember all-too-well that you were also considered a target for attack once you spoke up. You are probably right that watching you get abused then intimidated others into silence. Seriously ironic -- those who were shouting about being silenced were actually the ones doing the silencing!
I also agree with you about the "at least one cunt for every cock" rule. Besides, rules for a swingers club really don't belong at a social event about polyamoury! Most (all?) poly events that I have been to are pretty explicit about not being the place to come for a hookup; they are about spending time with other people who share similar views that fall outside the cultural default of monogamy.
On a totally different note: Life has been pretty hectic -- I am in Japan now, the UK on Monday, Chicago on Tuesday, New York next Friday, you get the idea -- but I have been meaning to ping you to suggest another group trip for next year. I had a lot of fun with you and B in Germany... and next year we could bring cheshcat along, too! (If you recall, she had extensive reconstructive surgery in January, so she wasn't able to travel in March) Maybe when things calm down a bit (i.e., November), we could discuss the possibility of a group holiday for the three of us, plus whoever else was interested in joining, for the Spring?
I hope that life and your new job are both treating you well, sweetie. *more hugs* Talk to you soon!!
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Date: 2012-09-27 01:05 pm (UTC)As you say, I do remember all-too-well that you were also considered a target for attack once you spoke up. You are probably right that watching you get abused then intimidated others into silence. Seriously ironic -- those who were shouting about being silenced were actually the ones doing the silencing!
I also agree with you about the "at least one cunt for every cock" rule. Besides, rules for a swingers club really don't belong at a social event about polyamoury! Most (all?) poly events that I have been to are pretty explicit about not being the place to come for a hookup; they are about spending time with other people who share similar views that fall outside the cultural default of monogamy.
On a totally different note: Life has been pretty hectic -- I am in Japan now, the UK on Monday, Chicago on Tuesday, New York next Friday, you get the idea -- but I have been meaning to ping you to suggest another group trip for next year. I had a lot of fun with you and B in Germany... and next year we could bring
I hope that life and your new job are both treating you well, sweetie. *more hugs* Talk to you soon!!